Do you remember the first time you met your significant other? Did you
know it was love at first sight? Well, I didn't. Sometimes we meet the
"mirror" of us. We are interested at first. I suspect that this is
because like personalities attract like personalities. But
then...conflict happens.
I certainly am no expert at relationships, but I know what I've learned over the past forty years.
As
good feminists, we know what we are supposed to think - we are strong,
confident, driven. We must be appreciated as equals with our male
coworkers - and we are. But then why do some women fall into escapism
of being drawn to
Success can take place in
many forms, and all successful people are certainly not perfect people.
No human is. Everybody has an Achilles Heel, a vulnerability. They are
our challenges. If we overcome them, we become successful. It isn't
that these obstacles are gone from our lives - we just learned to step
over them.
In other words...FEAR OF FAILURE NO LONGER BECOMES AN OPTION.
With success comes confidence. With confidence, the fear of failure decreases with the each subsequent challenge.
So, what does that have to do with romantic attraction and an alpha male?
An
alpha partner no longer allows a fear of failure to stop them. They
run head-on into a challenge. That is why we see them in romance novels
as the military man, the business CEO, the Navy Seal, the police
officers, the warrior, and even the paranormal wolf - or whatever
strikes your fancy. Even a building engineer who knows his stuff, and
shamelessly wears his kilt in public exhibits alpha male personality
(Yes, Welshman - that means you too! ).
Their confidence also
comes from many failures, as yours did. They faced trials, learned from
them, and overcame obstacles. Most of all, the alpha recovers from his
failures. He is still evolving...just as you are.
Marriage is
full of challenges, and everybody knows that. An alpha will evolve from
failures to become confident and strong. As the cream always rises to
the top, so will the alpha in their mate's eyes. After all, strength
attracts strength and all people are attracted to leadership.
So, are you with that person who challenges you?
Blessings!
Cindy James
Their Highland Trust
http://www.cindyjamesauthor.com FB @BiokmstWrites
an alpha male? Doesn't that make us submissives? How
could we ever be happy marrying one?
I am indeed.
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