I recently became a published contemporary romance author. Okay, a published, contemporary erotic romance author. As soon as my first short story, ‘Just Friends’, came out, I let everyone know: friends, family, acquaintances, social media followers and random strangers. I expected the mix of funny looks, genuine excitement, and rave reviews I’ve received.
What I didn’t expect was how writing a book with
explicit—but not particularly kinky—sex scenes would shift my personal
universe. Especially since most of my friends and family knew what I was
writing beforehand. Some even critiqued early drafts for me.
Still, their reactions after reading my officially published work have been fascinating…
my launch party, I received congratulations cards, a lovely succulent
in a pretty pot, a bouquet, and many bottles of wine. I also received a
realistically rendered, double-ended, pink silicone sex toy with ‘Just
Friends’ and my launch date inscribed in black marker on the side. Very
thoughtful. It makes a nice conversation piece on the mantle.
of my male friends questioned me about the specifics of powder skiing.
In great detail. I think it was a mix of genuine curiosity, and a desire
to let me know he read my book without talking about the sex. Or the
emotions. Or the transformation of the characters. Or their
relatability. Or the myriad of other things making up this story that
most men avoid in their reading material.
The other night, the
initial discussion over dinner with a few other couples revolved around
the best words to use for male sexual anatomy. We were at a local
restaurant, and not being all that quiet. I can’t help but wonder what
the others diners thought, and whether they prefer the d-word or the
Not that I minded. I’m fine talking about sex. Always
have been, even loudly in public places. It’s just, most other people
aren’t. Or they weren’t. Until now.
Here are five wonderful and crazy things I’ve discovered:
1) My very conservative Aunt is not as conservative as I thought.
My guy friends are so supportive, even they read my book—and most have
no idea what to say about it other than it’s very well written. Or they
really enjoyed the skiing.
3) My husband likes me spending my days thinking and writing about attraction, sex, love and happily ever after.
4) I have the most wonderful, supportive friends and family ever. Not that I didn’t already know, but it’s good to be reminded.
I’ve given people a free pass to have frank sexual conversations with
me anytime, anywhere. Which is a useful and appreciated, since I always
need more fodder for my books.
What’s the one question you would
ask an author of steamy romance? Does knowing someone writes about sex
make you more likely to discuss sex with them?
Please do let me know in the comments below.
Adventires in Love and the Great Outdoors